The truth about G-spot, nipplegasm & other things they didn’t tell you

It’s important to remember that unlike what you might see in movies and porn, sex isn’t always effortless and mind-shattering. On top of it, women especially in India are often led to believe that sex is shameful, which makes it harder to achieve orgasm and sexual satisfaction, and even communicate about their likes and dislikes to their partner. 

There’s no single handbook to achieve great orgasms or good sex, but knowing your body better definitely is a step in the right direction.

1. Vaginal Penetration isn’t always enough to make us orgasm: 

If you don’t reach climax during penetrative sex and feel there is something wrong with your body, STOP! Not every woman can reach orgasm through penetrative sex & it’s alright. In fact, according to research, less than 20 percent of women can orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. As per the largest study on orgasms so far, published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy in 2017, a mere 18 percent of American women say they can reach orgasm from just vaginal penetration. This takes us to the next point, the importance of clitoris aka clit.

2. Clit is a big deal: 

The clitoris contains about 8,000 nerve endings, making it the fireball of pleasure. Unsurprisingly, the clitoris does play an ‘O’ so important role in making women reach a climax. According to the big orgasm study, 36.6 percent of women say clitoral stimulation is “necessary” to orgasm. Well, the number still feels small, since the clitoris is the most nerve-rich part of the vulva.

3. The clitoris can be stimulated through vagina:

According to Rosara Torrisi, a certified sex therapist, the clitoris can be stimulated “indirectly from vaginal penetration.” This is because the clitoris is not just a little dot on the vulva, but a more elaborate nerve structure that extends into the body. It’s believed that this internal clit situation is what a lot of people think is the elusive G-spot. 

4. Is G-spot real? 

Much debate exists in the research field as to just what the G-spot is, and how it can produce an orgasm. The G-spot is a purported highly erogenous area of the vagina that, when stimulated, may lead to strong sexual arousal and orgasm.

Also known as the Gräfenberg spot, the G spot was a term coined by Dr. Beverly Whipple after she discovered that using a “come here” motion along the inside of the vagina produced a sexual response in women. She said that this spot can play an instrumental role in making the women orgasm. However, it’s important to clarify that the G spot isn’t a distinct part of your anatomy. In fact, in a 2017 study, researchers attempted to find the G spot only to come up empty-handed.

Instead of being an isolated spot in your vagina, the G spot is a part of your clitoral network. This means that when you’re stimulating the G spot, you’re stimulating part of the clitoris, which is much larger than we’re led to believe. 

5. What’s the deal with Foreplay?

Foreplay isn’t just a polite thing to do or an emotional need, in fact, for many women, it’s as important as the ‘act’ itself. For the majority of women “spending time to build-up arousal” plays a definite role in enhancing an orgasm. Contrary to popular beliefs, foreplay can even be verbal, where you both tell each other descriptive, sexy details of what’s about to happen next. For some women, the anticipation of what’s about to come is a real turn-on.

6. No two orgasms are the same: 

If you’ve had an orgasm that felt like a dud compared to one you’ve had previously, it’s not in your head. Torrisi says, “All orgasms vary in intensity based on sensation, situation, excitement, and possible fears or inhibitions.” So things like the environment, your general mood, what’s going on in the rest of your life, etc are all valid factors that contribute to wild or not-so-wild orgasms, every single time.

 

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7. And yes, multiple orgasms are pretty common: 

For many of us, one good trip to the O-zone is enough. But traveling there two (or three… or four… or more?!) times in one day? It sounds like too-good-to-be-true. But it’s not.

“Multiple orgasms is indeed a real thing that people of all genders are capable of enjoying,” says sexologist Jess O’Reilly. It depends on things like:

  • your anatomy
  • your sexual preferences and tastes
  • how well you know your body

8. “Nipplegasms” are real:

Then there are more uncommon but erotic forms of pleasure, such as the nipplegasm. A nipplegasm is exactly what it sounds like, an orgasm achieved from nipple and breast  stimulation alone. Nipplegasms sound like mythical lore because most people haven’t experienced this kind of sexual pleasure.  

Now, of course, keep in mind that no two people will experience the same kind of nipple-sensitivity, but for some, nipple sensitivity is so intense they can orgasm from nipple stimulation alone. As per research in Sexual and Relationship Therapy, a small but real number of women are able to experience orgasms from having only their nipples stimulated. So do with that information what you will.


 

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Ananya Singh

A former journalist, Ananya specializes in marketing & communications. She worked with a diverse set of firms across the spectrum for six years before leaving the cobwebs of a metropolitan city for a quiet, slow life in the hills. A depression survivor Ananya primarily writes about mental health, intersectional feminism and society. When she is not working or traveling, she spends her days in a quaint little town of Northeast India with her husband and two cats, sipping red wine and writing poetry.

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