Why am I not surprised by Vivek Oberoi’s crass tweet about his ex

As distasteful and crass Vivek Oberoi’s tweet about his ex was, I am neither surprised by the tweet, nor by his remorseless, arrogant remarks after being called out for it. After all, he is a man. Men in our society are conditioned to mock, call out names, and even threaten the women who reject them. It is a right that society has bestowed upon them since eternity. 

The controversial meme featured three pictures of Aishwarya Rai Bachchan with two of her past boyfriends and her husband, and was captioned “opinion polls”, “exit polls” and “results”.  Continue reading “Why am I not surprised by Vivek Oberoi’s crass tweet about his ex”

Simple, hard-hitting and one of Netflix’s finest Hindi cinema, SONI

In the backdrop of the movie there are two female police officers from two completely different classes, struggling to find their power and identity in a male dominated profession; at the forefront of the movie there are two women battling everyday hypocrisy, sexism and misogyny thrown their way at every step.

In the current scenario, a movie like Soni is a breath of fresh air, and shifts our focus to realistic cinema while raising some relevant questions. It does an important task of depicting everyday misogyny and male entitlement throughout the reel with the help of ingenious but thought-provoking scenes.

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Feminism for men: How to be a better ally?

When men say that they support women and feminism what most of them essentially mean is that they support equality till the time it doesn’t get too uncomfortable or challenging for them to question the systemic male privilege and misogyny that benefits them. Men enjoy a position that has been methodically created and upheld since ages for their own advantage, it must be scary to suddenly give up that kind of power, and that is why dismantling patriarchy is so damn difficult. 

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10 signs YOU are the emotional abuser in your relationship

Abuse doesn’t always result it scars, bruises and divorces. Emotional abuse can be subtle, but serious. Often the people who are emotionally abused don’t even know it because the abuse doesn’t get physical and its easy to overlook and excuse the partners’ behaviour especially at the onset of a relationship. 

Interestingly, many a times the emotional abusers also do not know that they are in the wrong. They truly believe that they know what’s best for their partners, and apply sly, even subconscious, tactics to gain control over the individuals. 

We all could have shown some of these signs, and dominated our partners at some point, but if you see a pattern, it may be time to pause and evaluate your actions and their consequences. 

Here are 11 signs that you are the emotional abuser in your relationship:

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5 scary things no one tells you about pregnancy

Motherhood is one of the most beautiful, unique experiences of life- and that’s what everyone pretty much tells you about it. The truth in fact is, it can also be quite a quivering experience.

Movies and novels often show us the cute little things like morning sickness, frequent bathroom trips, weight gain (obviously), food cravings which all seem justified if you are making a baby inside your own damn body but there are also some ‘not so cute’ things that remain under wraps, and are often neglected.  Continue reading “5 scary things no one tells you about pregnancy”

Disturbing: Violent new video game allows users to rape & murder women

In today’s age where women’s safety and security is one of the primary global concerns & the world is trying hard to fight against violent crimes against women, a video game developer has come up with an outrageous new game that allows the players to rape and murder women during a supposed zombie apocalypse. 

Sexual assault impacts thousands of people each year from all ages, genders, races, ethnicities, and backgrounds across the world, and in America alone, a woman is raped every two minutes. In such a scenario, the fact that the developers want to make monetary benefit from highly twisted fantasies is shocking and highly insensitive to actual rape victims.  Continue reading “Disturbing: Violent new video game allows users to rape & murder women”

Why we think that study saying lesbian are more likely to be fat is disturbing

The University of East Anglia and UCL, published a research on Thursday (January 21) in the Journal of Public Health, that investigates the interplay of gender and sexual orientation in obesity via evaluating participants’ BMI index. The research concluded that lesbians are more likely to be over weight.  Continue reading “Why we think that study saying lesbian are more likely to be fat is disturbing”